Choosing Love Over Fear

Love over fear


So how do we choose love over fear?

First, that love must start with ourselves. We must be our own best friend. We must love ourselves, for all of ourselves, even if we have imperfections and shadows that still need transforming into love. We must love and accept ourselves for who we are now, warts and all. We are all work in progresses; love it all.

Then that love must continue with others and the world around you. You see the world is in a pickle and many of the reasons behind this, are decisions and actions made in fear and as a result of fear. In order for us to transform the world we must choose love and forgiveness. We must drop from a headspace and into a heart space.

How can we do that?

It is in your reaction. Like I said in this Instagram post, it is in our reactions. We cannot control everything that happens to us in our lives. But with what does happen in our lives, we can control our reaction. Do we want to react in peace and love? Or do we want to react with fear, hate and more negativity?

With the world the way it is right now, I ask you to explore the ways in which you can choose love today.

How can you love and accept yourself more?

How can you forgive yourself more?

How can you love and accept others more?

How can you forgive others more?

Can you complain less and have more gratitude?

Can you withhold self judgement and judgement of others?

Can you stop criticising yourself harshly and others harshly?

Where can you shine more love?

I know this can seem a bit simplistic given the state of current affairs. And what would a privileged Western girl know about real fear?

Well, I believe that we can’t have peace on our planet until we have peace in all of our homes, in all of our hearts, with each other and within our selves.

How can we expect people to forgive such massive horrors and atrocities if we can’t even forgive ourselves for our mistakes, forgive our friends and families for mistakes or really bloody love ourselves?

Think about that and think about where you can choose love over fear today.

I am not saying it is easy either, it takes constant work and moment to moment awareness and choice. Girlfrand over here can still get tied up in fear. I can still get defensive and let my temper rise and bite poor Johnny’s head off, I can still berate myself for not meeting a self set expectation, I can still make decisions out of fear. I am human. The difference is that I am committing to this work. I am committed to choosing love over fear. And the more and more I do it, the more and more I am able to choose love quicker. The more and more I choose love, the more I can re-correct my choice to love even if I have chosen fear moments previously. I know that if I can do this, you can do it too. I have swam in fear for a long, long time and I know that moment to moment choosing love over fear is the only way to move forward for us all to move forward.

Love or fear. We have the choice. Let’s choose love.

Do you find it hard to choose love sometimes? Do you feel like you could work on this too?

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  • Reply Ellie

    When I screw something up, am too tired to hit a workout or fail to meet an expectation, it’s hard to love myself. However, I do think that learning to love myself was the key to being content with my life. I do continue to strive forward, but I am happy with who I am, no matter what I do.
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    July 21, 2016 at 10:31 pm
    • Reply thebrightfulllife

      That is great Ellie that you continue to strive forward and you are happy with who you are no matter what. It is not an easy road, the “do all things with love road”, especially when it comes to ourselves. But there is so much freedom in it <3

      July 22, 2016 at 7:40 am
  • Reply Michelle

    This is something I constantly work on. If I am not aware or on autopilot I go to fear (almost every time it seems). I used to get worked up and wonder why it was so hard for me to choose love. Now though, I am grateful that I am even able to catch myself.

    Thanks for sharing your beautiful message! I am loving your posts.

    July 22, 2016 at 9:06 pm
    • Reply thebrightfulllife

      Thank you for your kind words Michelle. It is something that constantly work on too. I think as human beings we are conditioned to choose fear as an autopilot because to our ego’s it means “survival”. It is a conscious choice to choose love over fear and I think the more we do it and challenge fear, the more natural it becomes for us. I am grateful too to be able to catch myself. Years ago, I wasn’t even aware of it!

      July 23, 2016 at 10:28 am
  • Reply Sarah

    I really enjoyed this post! I believe true and unconditional love are some of the most powerful things on this earth. Love is a beautiful thing and we need to take the time to do a little more loving!

    July 23, 2016 at 6:46 am
    • Reply thebrightfulllife

      Thank you Sarah! I completely agree that unconditional love is the most powerful thing on this Earth and that we all could do a little more loving 🙂

      July 23, 2016 at 10:26 am

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