How many times have you heard someone justify why they are eating something, or apologising for why they are eating something?
I have heard it COUNTLESS times and I have been the one in the past who said it too.
And it just has to stop.
We do not need to apologise for honouring a BIOLOGICAL NEED.
We don’t walk around saying oh my god I am so sorry for breathing today, or oh my god I am so badddd for drinking water. Seriously, it is exactly the same thing.
Equally, we do not need to apologise for the fact we may emotionally eat sometimes. It is natural. We are emotional beings. As long as eating is not the only coping mechanism you have for your negative emotions, then you are all good to eat a doughnut sometimes because you’ve had a shit day.
When you go out for dinner, you are allowed to order whatever you want and you do not need to apologise for it, or justify it. You don’t have to say “I deserve this cheeseburger, because I only ate salad today” or “I am having the salad, because I have been so naughty today”. No, just stop.
You are allowed to eat a cheeseburger because it is what you fancy. You are allowed to eat a salad because it is what you fancy.
You do not have to justify either.
The amount of times I have been around women who almost bond over shaming their food choices and justifying what they eat…
“Oh I shouldn’t eat this, it is so fattening”
“I am going to be bad and order dessert”
“I am going to the gym tomorrow, so I can eat what I want”
“I am on holiday, so I can go nuts”
“I haven’t eaten all day, so I am all good to eat this giant burger”
All of these very common statements are toxic.
You can eat what you want, when you want. You can satisfy your biological hunger without apologising. You can satisfy your soulful hunger without justifying it.
But how do I do that, you ask?
Give yourself unconditional permission to eat what satisfies you, physically, emotionally and mentally. Eat to satisfy your biological needs, eat to satisfy your soulful needs, eat because it is fun to celebrate with food and loved ones. Eat when you are hungry and stop when you are full. And you know what, sometimes you might eat until past full, because it tastes so bloody good. It is ok. You won’t suddenly be sent to food prison. Trust in your body. It can even out all food choices without your mind having to get overly involved with it all.
Food has no moral value. You are not more worthy because you drink a green smoothie everyday, and you are not less worthy because you love eating coco pops.
The reason people make these comments, is because of diet culture. A culture that makes us feel guilty for responding to natural hunger cues. A culture that makes us feel like we shouldn’t eat something if we already ate 2 hours ago because we “should be full”. A culture that makes us feel like we are not worthy if we aren’t trying to loose weight and fit into societies ridiculously narrow standard of what is “healthy” and “beautiful”.
The next time you go to eat and you feel like you have to justify it to those around you, or apologise for it, stop and centre yourself. Remind yourself you have unconditional permission to eat what satisfies you emotionally, mentally and physically and eat said food.
Equally, if anyone gives you shit for your food choices, you can choose not to respond. You do not have to respond to others comments who shame you or themselves for eating. This says everything about their relationship to food and themselves and nothing about you. Eating need require NO shame. Stand strong in the fact that you have the right to eat whatever you damn well please, whenever you damn well please.
Let’s eat to nourish our bodies, but also to nourish our minds and souls!
Have you ever caught yourself justifying why you are eating or apologising for it? Have you ever felt shamed by someone for eating?