I have written about being kind to yourself before and I think I will probably end up writing about it over and over again.
Why? Because we all need a lot more kindness. Our world needs a lot more kindness. We all need to be much kinder to ourselves and we all need to be much kinder to others.
You see, everyone is going through something. I know this because we are all imperfect humans in a world that has much joy, yet also much pain. We all have some sort of challenge that we are facing at any given time. With each and everyone of us going through something or facing some sort of challenge, no one needs extra shit in the form of harsh criticism, harsh judgement and unkindness.
Whether we are short with the person at the checkout for taking “too long”, we are mad at “a terrible driver” or we lash out and say mean things to our partners, we have all been unkind before. We have all made a quick and harsh judgement about someone we don’t even know. We have all criticised way too harshly someone or something. I am all for constructive criticism but there is no need for unkind criticism.
Anyway. My point is that this world and each being within it needs more kindness, more compassion and more love.
How do we do this? Not only do we make a conscious effort to be more kind, patient and understanding with others, we start with being kinder to ourselves. I know this may say backward or selfish but roll with me here…
I think a possible reason we can be so unkind and judgemental with other people, is because we can be so unkind and judgemental to ourselves.
The more kindness, forgiveness and love we give ourselves, the more we will give this to others.
The more patient we are with ourselves, the more patient we will be with others.
The more we let go of trying to be perfect, the more we will let there be imperfection in others.
The more compassion we have for ourselves, the more compassion we will radiate to others.
This is not to say that if you have self judgement, are unkind to yourself or have harsh self criticism, that you cannot be kind, compassionate and loving to others. I was seriously unkind to myself for many years, but I was mostly nice, compassionate and kind to others.
But if we get really honest with ourselves, even if we are generally nice to others, there is still a big level of judgement and impatience with others until we truly are kind, compassionate and loving with ourselves. When we forgive, accept and love our own imperfections, we find it much easier to do this with others.
We are all human. We are all imperfect. And we are all connected. The saying “we need to treat others how we would like to be treated” is true. But how about we treat ourselves how we would like to treat others. With kindness, love, compassion, patience and forgiveness.
What are your thoughts on this?